What are you saying YES to this year?
Perhaps you’re saying YES to:
- Launching that new online program
- Offering something you’ve never offered before
- Hiring a new team member
- Writing your book
- ___________________ (fill in the blank with something exciting for you!)
Whatever you’re saying YES to, it’s essential you identify it, own it and claim it, if you’re going to create what you really desire this year.
If you don’t identify what you’re saying YES to, you could end up on auto-pilot, scattered from saying yes to everything or exhausted from putting your attention into energy-drainers instead of generative possibilities.
It is also essential to identify what you are saying NO to, in order to stay true to your YES priorities.
Here are some tips and tools to help you identify what you’re saying YES AND NO to, now and going forward, to support you in creating a phenomenal 2017!
TIP 1: Write down what you’re saying YES to
This might be in your journal, on your vision board, post-its on your wall, or captured in some other VISUAL way.
TIP 2: Write down what you will say NO to in order to make your YES a priority
For example, imagine you’re saying YES to spending 12 hours a week writing your book. What will you say NO to in order to say YES to those 12 hours of writing? Perhaps things like: spending hours each day scrolling through Facebook or making other people’s requests more important than your priorities.
Once you get clear on your YES and your NO, it’s important to have (and use) tools that keep you tuning into what is true for you. This keeps you from getting so attached to your YES and your NO list that you miss out on other generative possibilities.
TOOL 1: When you notice your attention being drawn towards something, ask, “Is this a distraction or a possibility?”
This is a powerful way to honor your intuition. Sometimes you get drawn down another path that surprisingly shows you a new way to write about a concept you’ve been struggling to describe in your book. Yet other times, you get taken down the rabbit-hole of distraction that leads to limitation rather than possibilities. Use this question when you’re wondering which pathway you’re heading down!
TOOL 2: Ask, “Is now the time?”
You may sit down to your 2 hours of scheduled writing time and get a sudden impulse to clean out your kitchen drawers. (It happens to the best of us.) Or you sit down to write about Chapter 3 but are full of ideas for Part 3 of your book. So ask yourself, ask that impulse, ask that idea, “Is now the time (for you)?” If you get a YES, trust that. If you get a NO, trust that, too. (A “Yes” is usually light. A “No” is usually heavy.)
Something that you thought was on your NO list may actually support you with your YES priority if you get the “YES” that “Now is the time” to explore it.
Let me give you another quickie example of these last two tools…
I’m saying YES to more speaking this year – on my stage and other people’s stages, in person and virtually. So when I got invited to take the stage at The Grand Slam Storytelling event in February, in Colorado, you might think I was a BIG YES.
But I wasn’t. I was so honored by the invitation; this event is a competition among their best storytellers of 2016. I was delighted by the possibility. I love storytelling! Yet it didn’t feel like a full yes. So I used Tools 1 & 2. I asked, “Is this a distraction or a possibility?” and I got that it was a distraction. I also asked, “Is now the time?” and got that no, now was not the time to jump at this invitation.
Saying NO to what seems like an ideal invitation frees us up to say YES to that which is a better match. (I’m excited to see what other possibilities I’ll create and invitations I’ll receive this year that are a better match!)
Use these tips and tools to Live Your Yes this year! And I’d love to hear from you… comment below and let me know: what are you saying YES to this year?